Generosity and Self-preservation
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I agree to
this quote when it said "I want to give light but not like the
candle". It is like saying that you can give but do not give too much or
you will forget leaving some for yourself. Every one of us must know how
to put limitations on some stuffs when it comes to giving. Although it may look
like you are being stingy or you're unwilling to give and people might think of
it negatively. But it is also important to remind ourselves that this person or
people we care shouldn't be place at the center of our lives. We should also
think of what they thought of us and how important are we to them because it
would be disappointing to know that the level of importance that the person has
on us is different from how we imagined. This is also where we apply,
"Generosity and self-preservation should be allowed together". At
least we wouldn't be disappointed when we think highly of this person or people
but only then to find out this person or people doesn't think the same.
All of us has had actually someone helped us or we helped from minor things to major things. Often times, we make their problems our problems. We try to solve them as much as we can. We lose our time, our resources and we only focus one thing: them. I have not experience this fully but I had seen this experience around me. I even heard one time, that one of my classmate is giving advice to my other classmate. Telling him that the girl should not depend on him and that he should limit himself on what he gives to the girl. My classmate further explained to him that let the girl give some to him because a relationship is all about doing it together.
The quote itself is explanatory. Do not give too much of what you have or give everything what you have or you will lose yourself in the process. Being generous is good but sparing some for yourself is good too. You don't have to give everything to this person or people everything at all. Its not your duty to help them. Sometimes you just have to guide them in order for them stand on their own feet. A bird will never fly if you keep on caging it with your generosity and care. And what's important you don't lose "you" as a person. You shouldn't be the dog that keeps on following its master just to please. You don't have t be that person where you are stuck in that relationship were you are being taken advantage. YOU ARE YOUR OWN INDIVIDUAL SELF. Don't let others take that and don't let yourself lose that.
I actually know an anime(lol) that applies to this quote. Skip Beat is a Japanese shōjo manga by Yoshiki Nakamura. It is the story of Kyoko Mogami, a 16-year-old girl who discovers that her childhood friend and romantic goal, Sho Fuwa, only keeps her around to act as a maid and to earn his living expenses, while he works his way to become the top pop idol in Japan. She only realized that when she overheard Sho talking to his manager that she was plain and boring. This situation also applies to some of my classmates. Like, one is so deeply in love with his partner while the other one is stuck in a one-sided relationship. Both person tries their best to please their respective partner but I sometimes see that their respective partner only uses them or they don't seem to appreciate their efforts. This situation also applies to some of my classmates. Like, one is so deeply in love with his partner while the other one is stuck in a one-sided relationship. Both person tries their best to please their respective partner but I sometimes see that their respective partner only uses them or they don't seem to appreciate their efforts.
It is quite
often sad to see people giving their all when it comes to a relationship only
to be left behind and their effort not being appreciated. Sometimes its even
harder to look at other people helping other people only to be taken advantage
or granted. And it's even more annoying that this ungrateful people leave those
who helped them in their darkest days.
All of us has had actually someone helped us or we helped from minor things to major things. Often times, we make their problems our problems. We try to solve them as much as we can. We lose our time, our resources and we only focus one thing: them. I have not experience this fully but I had seen this experience around me. I even heard one time, that one of my classmate is giving advice to my other classmate. Telling him that the girl should not depend on him and that he should limit himself on what he gives to the girl. My classmate further explained to him that let the girl give some to him because a relationship is all about doing it together.
The quote itself is explanatory. Do not give too much of what you have or give everything what you have or you will lose yourself in the process. Being generous is good but sparing some for yourself is good too. You don't have to give everything to this person or people everything at all. Its not your duty to help them. Sometimes you just have to guide them in order for them stand on their own feet. A bird will never fly if you keep on caging it with your generosity and care. And what's important you don't lose "you" as a person. You shouldn't be the dog that keeps on following its master just to please. You don't have t be that person where you are stuck in that relationship were you are being taken advantage. YOU ARE YOUR OWN INDIVIDUAL SELF. Don't let others take that and don't let yourself lose that.
I actually know an anime(lol) that applies to this quote. Skip Beat is a Japanese shōjo manga by Yoshiki Nakamura. It is the story of Kyoko Mogami, a 16-year-old girl who discovers that her childhood friend and romantic goal, Sho Fuwa, only keeps her around to act as a maid and to earn his living expenses, while he works his way to become the top pop idol in Japan. She only realized that when she overheard Sho talking to his manager that she was plain and boring. This situation also applies to some of my classmates. Like, one is so deeply in love with his partner while the other one is stuck in a one-sided relationship. Both person tries their best to please their respective partner but I sometimes see that their respective partner only uses them or they don't seem to appreciate their efforts. This situation also applies to some of my classmates. Like, one is so deeply in love with his partner while the other one is stuck in a one-sided relationship. Both person tries their best to please their respective partner but I sometimes see that their respective partner only uses them or they don't seem to appreciate their efforts.
"It’s better to give than to receive," that's one
of my teacher's favorite quote. There is actually nothing wrong when you want
to give but what it's make it so wrong is that you had forgotten to love
yourself because you give this person or people the love that should have been
for you. Sometimes it’s okay to be selfish. Sometimes it’s okay to give and
receive something back too.
REFERENCE:
Skip Beat!. (2019, December 3). Retrieved from https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Skip_Beat!
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